FRIENDZONED...

FRIENDZONED

It’s a new year! Well, that’s no longer news, right? To some people, it’s just another day, another week, nothing particularly special. To some other folks, it’s such a big deal! New year! New Blessings! New opportunities! Blah blah blah. Whichever one you dig,  I’m sure it’s cool. But hey, if a person is a dumb ass in the last second of 2012, the first nanosecond of 2013 ain’t gonna change shit about that, unless you do something about it. If you have been languishing in the Friend zone last year, it follows you to this year too, unless you do something about it too. Fact!

FRIEND ZONE:

I'm sure you already know what it means. it refers to a platonic relationship where one person wishes to enter into a romantic relationship, while the other does not. Get the picture, you see a girl or a guy you really wanna go into a romantic relationship with, but somehow you wind up as just friends, best friends maybe, but nothing romantic! Awwwwh! Another way to look at it is having to perform all the duties of a boyfriend or girlfriend, without the benefits! Once the friend zone is established, it is said to be difficult to move beyond that point in a relationship. The idea of a "friend zone" is often criticized as simply being a platonic relationship in which one party never informs the other of their affection, then resents the other party for not sensing it, or feels entitled to the other party's affections despite the wishes of the other party.

Don’t thinks it’s only a guy’s problem. Girls can be friend zoned too. Truth is, I have friend zoned girls before. However, I must confess I’ve been friend zoned too, and that shit ain’t funny at all. It can even get to the point where your love interest is considering you for his or her sibling or cousin, so that you just don't vanish off them. Admit it, either you are currently in a friend zone right now, or you have been at a point in your life. Ok, you are having a hard time agreeing that you are in a friend zone?

KNOW YOUR ZONE

1.     When you hear phrases like: “I can talk to you about anything,“ “You‘re really a nice guy,” “You‘re like a brother to me,” “You‘re my best friend” and “You understand me." Sounds very lovely right? I mean, hearing your love interest say those kinda things to you makes you feel good, but hey, you have been friend zoned 99%!

 

  

1.  2    It can be so tasking asking a girl out, unless you are a born player, with years of experience in the field. Imagine you finally conjure up the courage, Dutch or not, to pour it all out with the smoothness of a poet and the oratory of a public speech maker, and you get responses like: “I don’t want to jeopardize our friendship,” “I like you too much to go out with you,” “I don’t want to risk losing what we have” and so on. Sorry bruv, you are a stakeholder in the friend zone.

3. It is very beautiful to have somebody that is free enough to talk to you and share gists, but if she tells you all about her problems with men, asks you for advice about the men she’s attracted to and tells you excitedly, “I just met this really great guy!” then you are the Mayor of the Friend Zone.

 

     In a short while, the sequel to this post will share why we find ourselves in the friend zone and more

     importantly, how to move away from that zone and start reaping eh… ehm…anything you want to reap. *evil grin.

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